Forgiveness is Cheap: Confession is an Easy Out

April 12, 2013 at 4:26 pm 4 comments

Matt 5:23,24 –  “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.”

There’s a nice principle. If you have a problem with someone else, you go and reconcile with them FIRST: THEN you come talk to your god. But honestly is this how it really works? No, we know it isn’t.

The church has this set of teachings that say, “God is the one most offended by your sins…. He’s the one you really must apologize to… Get right with him.” And along with those maxims goes the teaching that if you just confess to god, then you’ll be forgiven, shriven, cleansed. You’ll be back in good graces with your imaginary friend and all will be right. ….. or will it?

Haven’t you forgotten someone? What about the real, flesh and bone person who was truly offended and hurt by what you did? He/She is still there. Did you confess to him/her? How’s that relationship?

It’s so easy, so cheap to confess to the air and imagine that everything’s OK. You imagine your deity smiles on you. You may hear your priest pronounce forgiveness for you. But try going to that person you really hurt. Will he/she smile and forgive so readily? Or will you have to actually DO SOMETHING to earn your forgiveness? Might you actually have to change your ways? (That’s another actual bible concept called repentance.)

Yeah, confession is easy. Pronounced and imagined forgiveness from an imaginary being is cheap. But real repentance is hard, and real forgiveness is earned, and confessing to a real person you’ve actually harmed is scary.

But hey, religion is there to comfort folks, not challenge or change them. Not to make them better, just to make them happy.

So go to your altars; and if you have any real issues with real people, don’t worry; tell it to the air, then imagine all is well.

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4 Comments Add your own

  • 1. cag  |  April 13, 2013 at 12:57 am

    Well, there is the 10% of your gross income handling charge that god’s agent collects for message forwarding.

  • 2. Cjmybad  |  April 18, 2013 at 6:21 am

    This really says so much to me – the ‘Christian’ that hurt us very badly can just walk away with a clear conscience after being forgiven. Oh and keep on doing the horrible deceitful behavior!

  • 3. susanbotchie  |  July 6, 2014 at 9:22 pm

    am i missing something concerning the Scripture? Uhm, he’s told to leave the gift and go reconcile with his brother. Sounds a bit more than merely spiritual air-guitar. As for the predictable sky-buddy crack, you know the Scriptures better than that.

  • 4. Ally Cross  |  December 28, 2014 at 10:20 pm

    Reblogged this on The Other Side of Me and commented:
    An older post but these are my thoughts exactly. This is one of the reasons why I have decided to walk away from Christianity. I can’t get behind a belief that preaches love and forgiveness on one hand then turn around and deliberately hurt another with the other.

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